Having a new baby should be one of the most joyous times in a woman’s life. But this is not the case for some women. Instead of feeling elated with happiness, they are plunged into moments of depression. These moments are commonly referred to as “baby blues”. Often these symptoms only last two to five days, but for some they don’t go away.
So, what is postpartum depression? The definition is the abrupt decrease in hormone levels after having a baby that can lead to depression in some women. In my research about this subject, the consensus is no one knows what causes it, but anyone with a history of mood disorder, anxiety or has a history of depression is more vulnerable to it.
How do I know if I’m suffering from this condition? Symptoms can vary but here’s a list of what to look out for:
- Feeling sad or crying a lot
- Not having an interest in the baby
- Having no energy or motivation
- Feeling worthless
- Sleeping too much or too little
- Feeling anxious
- Severe mood swings
- Irritability
- Feeling overwhelmed
Most important thing to know…symptoms of “baby blues” should not be dismissed with the idea that it will automatically go away. If the symptoms persist more than a few days, seek medical assistance. A new mother needs lots of emotional support such as home visits, telephone chats, discussions and validation on how the mother is feeling. The baby isn’t the only one needing lots of love and attention.
The key to successful treatment of postpartum depression is early intervention. A new mother may not recognize they are depressed or may realize they are struggling but are embarrassed to tell anyone. That’s why it’s important to encourage women not to keep their symptoms a secret. Support and validation are essential in managing and relieving a new mother’s struggle.
I am the mother of three children and thankfully did not suffer any symptoms of “baby blues” with any of them. However, I also had one miscarriage and realized in researching this that I did suffer from postpartum depression after the loss of this pregnancy. I cried a lot and was very moody and sad. My husband seemed to understand and was very gentle with me during the days following the loss. However, others around me weren’t so considerate. I was told to get over it and just get pregnant again, like that would erase the loss. Be aware of what you say to any woman that’s given birth or lost a pregnancy. Your words could help or hurt.
Postpartum depression, left untreated, can be serious. So if you have any concerns that you may be suffering from this condition, seek help. Reach out for support groups or support from your family or medical assistance. Love yourself enough to reach out for help. Don’t let this condition rob you of the joy you should be experiencing.
And always remember this:
YOU ARE AMAZING! YOUR ARE IMPORTANT! YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING WONDERFUL IN THIS LIFE!